Ladies I need your help. I'm 20 and I love my girlfriend. I'm way to young to get married(I'm immature). I need your ideas on how to pamper my girlfriend and let her know how special she is to me. I must stress the fact that we are both virgins and are waiting until we get married to have sex. I'm getting ready to go to Iraq in about a year and *if* I die I want my time with her to be something that she will remember me by. In case you cant tell I'm not exactly a *normal* 20 year old male. I sorta have high morals. Anyway ladies if you could help me out here I would greatly appreciate it.

You are right, you aren't exactly a “normal” 20 year old guy.  That alone makes your girlfriend very lucky.  My best advice is to create memories.  You don't have to spend a lot of money to show her how much she means to you. 

Since I don't know anything about your girl friend, I don't know what sorts of things she likes.  So I will just give you some examples based on me and the ladies/girls I know.  Most of us love it if you put some real effort and thought into something, even if in the end it doesn't go the way you hoped.  The thought really does count. 

You could suprise her with a picnic.  Get a basket of some sort and fill it with sandwiches, cookies, fruit, veggies, etc.  Make sure to include at least one thing you know for sure is a special favorite of hers.  She will know that you kept her in mind while planning it.

Are there any festivals or events coming up?  Take her and center it around what she enjoys, or what you both enjoy together.

Recreate your first date, or a special portion of it.

Write her a love letter or a poem and leave it where she will find it. 

Take her for a walk on a beach or in a pretty park to just talk.  Women love to talk, and we really love it when our men listen to us. 

Most importantly, tell her at every oportunity how important she is to you. 

I could go on and on, but I think you get the idea.  :o)

Heidi

I wish my daughter had a boyfriend like you…..big sigh…….

I agree with the picnic…and doing inexpensive things….

take the letters of her name and write special things about her starting with that letter..

good luck

I'm thinking about taking a picture a day when I'm in Iraq and sending them back one at a time just so she knows I'm doing ok everyday. It may not be possible to do it everyday because of OpSec(operational security) but I plan on trying, and possibly having her do the same so I have something to look forward to… I know its gonna be hard on her when I'm gone(its gonna be really hard on me too…), and I hate it when she cries(even happy tears over the phone, it makes me feel like I've done something wrong) so I'm gonna have trouble there. I broke up with my last girlfriend before I went to basic because I didn't want to come back this Macho-Man jerk and hurt her emotionally, then I tried to get back together with her when I realized that my personality didn't change all that much, yeah it didn't happen. But because it didn't I was free to realize how much Leigh Ann(current girlfriend) meant to me. I still get nervous when I go to call her. I know I know… I'm 20 and we've been going out for quite some time why am I still nervous? Well its because she is my world. Everytime she walks into a room I can't help but stare at her. She's the most beautiful person in my world. Some guys say that she's not very pretty but they aren't the ones dating her. She's about as crazy as I am. She's real good in church. I wont say that I NEED her because I lived a few years without her… But I will say that I don't want to live a single day without her, wake up a single day without knowing she loves me, or go to sleep a single night without making sure she had the best day of her life. Well I've spoken to much… I'll talk to yall later.

He bakes bread, too!  (He's posted a couple times on my french bread recipe post.)  Let me tell you, Jeremy, that right there is romantic!!!  Your girlfriend is a lucky girl!  I love it when guys bake bread.  (It's so unusual.)

Miss, Ms., Mrs. (I forget which is which…) GeorgiaZ, the idea you had about starting a school would be a good one but… How many parents love their boys enough to want them to respect people? How many boys now-a-days would want to be respectful? You can teach someone manners but they must learn respect. Without respect manners aren't worth anything. And you almost made my mother cry. She sorta had to raise me by herself so she took that compliment to heart. My father divorced her a few months after she got pregnant with me and my step-father wasn't of any account at all, so it was pretty much her and I(sister lived with grandma). She tried her best to raise me proper. She sometimes feels she didn't do a good enough job as I can be a normal guy sometimes but I have to remind her that she raised me alone and I seemed to turn out good… Seemed. Lol.

Miss, Ms., Mrs. Suzanne, as for the baking… Yeah… It's mostly because I like to eat. My mom didn't want me to be a normal guy in the sense of not knowing how to cook. So if/when my girlfriend and I get married she won't be the one to cook all the time. I cooked for my family when I was younger, not first class meals mind you, but meals none the less.

Mr.(I assume) MVP, I don't feel like I'm all that mature because I don't own my own land yet and I'm still a little bit on the lazy side. I have a lot more wrinkles I need to get ironed out before I can consider myself mature. I don't want to get married until I know I can support my wife and kids(even though those will be FFFFFAAAAAAARRRRRRR down the road). I see how my father and step-father were and I know how I am, I don't want my wife and kids to even have to dream about me being that way. Also I can be much more stable in my walk with God. I want to be closer to God before becoming closer to my girlfriend.

Well mom has food ready so I'll be eating. Laters.

I got to spend some time with her today. We painted her sister's apartment and we had fun the whole time. I seemed to have more paint on me then the wall did… Then we went inside and watched a tape of America's got Talent(have you noticed that none of the judges are American? 2 British people and one German…). We spent some time just laughing and holding hands. That's the type of fun we have. We don't have to be doing something fun like playing games, just being with each other is fun enough.