Posted by Suzanne McMinn on January 17, 2008 @ 12:30 am
Tags: 52
Daily Farmhouse Journal
In email, in the not-so-distant past….
Me: I think you’re funny.
52: Funny ha-ha or funny peculiar?
Me, thinking….
Me: Both.
52: I think you’re nice.
Me, silent….. Days pass…..
52: Hi, Suzanne. Did you forget me already? You said you think I’m funny.
Me: Yes, I do think you’re funny! I think you would be a nice friend….. You seem so nice, but I think you might be too old for me. That sounds so mean…..
52: I’m not dead yet.
Me, thinking….
My friends: Suzanne, what are we going to do with you? Age is just a state of mind!
Me: But–
My friends: Suzanne!!!!! He’s so NICE!!!!
Me: I think he’s too nice for me.
My friends: Suzanne, you’re too good for ANY man, but since he’s nice, we will let him be your friend.
Me: But he’s old.
My friends: SUZANNE!!! 52 is NOT OLD!!!
Me, thinking…..
More to come…..
7:12
am
Their is NO such thing as “too nice.” We’ve tempered our lives by accepting sarcastic humor and “friendly” insults, we should be ashamed. Good manners, compassion and kindness have NOT gone out of style.
I found a 52, it’s made me a kindler, softer, gentler woman for sure.
8:44
am
Well, what number are you Suzanne, that makes 52 seem “too old”? I mean, too old for what? I think I know what you’re up to, and I think you are going to discover that 52 is a pretty doggone good number!!! I say, go for it!
BW
8:54
am
Having just turned 50 last Sunday, I just had to tell you, the body ages, the mind doesn’t. I still feel about 25 in my mind.
Don’t know if that helps or hurts, but thought I’d throw it in the mix!
52 is old if your 20. Not if your 35.
8:58
am
52 is NOT old. Matter of fact, it gets younger every year!
Enjoy him!
9:09
am
How juicy! Can’t wait to hear the rest of the story.
9:27
am
Suzanne, ask yourself one thing…..Is there chemistry? If the answer is no then don’t go any further. There has to be chemistry before you even entertain the 52 “friendship”. Also, remember most older men are done with the game playing. “52″ might be your Mr. Perfect.
9:41
am
From where I sit, 52 looks younger every day. Life is short, enjoy it!
9:43
am
I hope 52 is not too old as my Tech Hubby turns 52 this year and I will turn 41. I understand what you mean though. Tech Hubby does not act like he is 51. He is lively and fun and makes me laugh more than any other person I’ve ever known. Very important to me to have a man with a sense of humor. Are there age related issues, yes. Don’t let your friends push you into anything, but be open minded. Be friends if you want but set that boundary if you don’t want more. I don’t want to sound mommy-ish but you know what I mean. Do what you want, what makes you happy and if NOT having him as a friend is what makes you happy then so-be-it.then
9:46
am
p.s. Tech Hubby teases me and says I married him because he was the first guy to be nice to me. I tell him that is correct because what are you going to do? Skip over the nice one and let him get away so some other guy can treat you like dirt? Not this gal!!
9:58
am
I read recently that 60 is the new 40 for men. I mean, do the words Sean Connery mean anything to you? Paul Newman for goodness sake!
Dear lord, how could you NOT want 52??
(For point of reference I am 39.5 and the love of my life is 47.2)
Maria
10:25
am
Well, you would have to assess this on an individual basis, as to whether 52 is too old. I guess it depends on what you want. But I will say that Dad’s second wife was 12 years younger and she found that when she was in her prime, he was talking retirement and pensions. However, his third wife is 16 or 17 years younger than he is. Mom’s husband is ten years older than she is and for the past handful of years there have been difficult health issues — mental and physical. Not that her hubby has dementia, but he is *old* mentally. So really, it does depend on the individual.
A huge age difference doesn’t appeal to me because I’ve seen the realities in my parents’ lives. I’m 43 pushing 44 and even I don’t want a 52 year old. LOL. But then, I don’t want anyone other than my fur kids.
Do what you feel is right, but definitely, it’s NOT worth it if you don’t have mental and physical chemistry. Whatever you do, don’t settle, Suzanne. I settled with my ex-hubby because I saw what Mom went through with her first husband (my dad) and I knew that you can’t have everything in a relationship. So I chose friendship and companionship over chemistry — only I chose quite poorly in the long run. I’ve been divorced for almost 7 years and I don’t date at all — not going down that road again. And I would much rather be alone than with another putz.
So whatever your choices, trust your gut and make sure your are choosing what is healthy for your Self.
Now, I’d have a different reply if you had posted you had a young, buff hottie on the go.
-Kim
11:06
am
Hi Suzanne, first time commenter here!
Came over from Ree’s and Lovin’ your blog. I have to chime in on this 52 y/o business… My mom is 56 and has been single for 30 years now. She’s been trying to get into the dating game for a while and overwhelmingly, the one thing I hear her say is they look old! Men that are 56+, according to my Mom, are not aging well. She’s picky, yes. But I’ve looked at the pics if she meets them online via match/e-harmony, and from what I’ve seen 52 ain’t half bad. But don’t go any older than that if ya don’t have to. haha
And as your cyber-friend here, I say give it a whirl. There’s no harm in coffee with 52. Just to satisfy any curiosity!
11:06
am
I met my husband when I was 23 and he was 41.That is an 18 year age gap. He made me the happiest woman in the world for 24 years. I never even thought about the age difference. Love doesn’t take age into account when it finds you. It all depends on the people involved. If you want friendship, does it matter how old a person is? I wouldn’t want a 52 year old man saying I was too old for friendship. That is where you need to start.If that works then you can’t lose ’cause we can never have too many friends. That’s my two cents for the day. Have a great day and
to all.
11:42
am
Suzanne, give 52 a chance. There are no guarantees in life. If you don’t feel any chemistry between the two of you at least you gave it a try. You could end up with a great friend!
12:04
pm
Go with your heart. Always go with your heart, which never discriminates against anything including age.
1:48
pm
Do you like him? In the end, that’s what matters. If not, just keep looking around.
1:50
pm
52 may be funny, but you’re pretty funny yourself, my friend.
3:07
pm
From where I sit, 52 is NOT old.
3:22
pm
You will know if it is right. People can give you opinions - but ultimately it is your choice. Also keep in mind what effect will a relationship have regarding your children.
4:04
pm
‘pends on how old you are, ‘pends on if you like to be around him, ‘pends on if he makes you happy, ‘pends on if you have anything in common, ‘pends on if you kids like him, ‘pends on a lot of things. BUT, look at it this way, if you are happy with the questions above, he would be over the mid-life crisis that is about to drive my hubby crazy. (even though I am HOT, and yes, even young guys say so) SO, I agree, give the “NICE” guy a chance, he might be the best thing that ever happened to you!
4:14
pm
52 is not “too” old. Age is a number, and if you think he is funny, maybe you should be his friend. The fact that your friends like him counts for a lot, too. Every boyfriend I ever had that my best friend didn’t care for turned out to be a dud. Listen to your friends!
7:50
pm
You can never have too many friends, age doesn’t matter there. Whether he moves beyond friendship is YOUR choice.
8:13
pm
Suzanne, 52 is NOT OLD!
8:45
pm
I thought maybe it was Steve the builder but I see where you said he has a wife lol.
This is an interesting topic for me. 2 years ago my youngest daughter met a “friend” who she met to help her with her artistic abilities. Well it turned into more than a friendship (with my daughter being the instigator and who had recently broken up with her boyfriend of 3 years who was extremely immature and 3 years older than her). I really, really, really want to hate the guy but I can’t. He’s a nice guy. So although I wish it wasn’t so because I want her to find the “perfect” guy - I have come to realize that sometimes you just have to go with the flow. Oh, yes, his age - 14 years older than her!
9:20
pm
Who cares how old the man is??? The real question is, does he like farm life and especially, does he like animals?
2:43
am
Seeing that in 28 days I will BE 52 years old, I can vouch for the fact that 52 is NOT old.
As to age differences, once you’re both grown, it doesn’t make a whole lot of difference anymore.
11:22
am
So? What happened next?